Writing 101, Day 4; Loss

Today’s prompt- “write about loss.”

Now, I’m barely an adult. I haven’t had a lot of important things to lose just yet. 
But what I have lost is very important. In under two decades, I’ve seen a lot of shit. I’ve dealt with a lot of shit. 
I feel very strongly about a variety of things. The thing I care about most, however, is this little concept of EQUALITY. As a disabled, asexual, genderqueer, mentally ill female with new age beliefs coming from a low income family, one of the only kinds of discrimination I haven’t suffered is racial- I’m white, and I will never in my lifetime be scorned for it. 
Maybe I will at some point be written off by a person of colour, but that’s for a good reason- the loudest white people, the ones standing behind their beliefs and shouting to gain a respect for what they believe in, are the racist, sexist, homophobic, religion pro-lifers who want to continue to benefit from the systematic oppression and hatred for every other group of people. 
They have every right to be angry at us. If you get bitten by a dog, nobody is going to criticize you for being wary of dogs, incase they’re the same kind of big, loud dog that hurt you. You can be scared of dogs for the rest of your life, but nobody would ever tell you you’re being unfair to the dogs. Nobody is going to come up to you on the street and say “not all dogs are like that”.
 
This leads me into the first thing I’ve lost- my trust in men. I am a victim of sexual assault. My former best friend was as well. The man who assaulted us was one of out closest friends at the time. 
My father has been emotionally abusing me since I was a little kid. That same friend’s father has been doing the same since my friend was very young- he’s one of those “god hates fags, abortion is murder, rape is the fault of the victim” zealots  hiding his hatred behind religion and claiming his will is the will of God. 
Both of our mothers just sit back and let it happen. They’re comfortable where they’ve been put by men, in the demure little housewife role, and just let their husbands make all the decisions. 
 
Half of all women in Canada have experienced at least one incident of physical or sexual violence since the age of 16.
67% of all Canadians say they personally know at least one woman who has been sexually or physically assaulted.2
On average, every six days a woman in Canada is killed by her intimate partner. In 2011, In 2011, from the 89 police reported spousal homicides, 76 of the victims (over 85%) were women.
On any given day in Canada, more than 3,300 women (along with their 3,000 children) are forced to sleep in an emergency shelter to escape domestic violence. Every night, about 200 women are turned away because the shelters are full.
Each year, over 40,000 arrests result from domestic violence—that’s about 12% of all violent crime in Canada.5 Since only 22% of all incidents are reported to the police, the real number is much higher.
As of 2010, there were 582 known cases of missing or murdered Aboriginal women in Canada.6 Both Amnesty International and the United Nations have called upon the Canadian government to take action on this issue, without success. According to the Native Women’s Association of Canada, “if this figure were applied proportionately to the rest of the female population there would be over 18,000 missing Canadian women and girls.”
According to the Department of Justice, each year Canadians collectively spend $7.4 billion to deal with the aftermath of spousal violence. This figure includes immediate costs such as emergency room visits and future costs such as loss of income. It also includes tangible costs such as funerals, and intangible costs such as pain and suffering.
In a 2009 Canadian national survey, women reported 460,000 incidents of sexual assault in just one year. Only about 10% of all sexual assaults are reported to police. When it comes to sexual assault, women are frequently not believed, blamed for being assaulted, “or subjected to callous or insensitive treatment, when police fail to take evidence, or when their cases are dropped arbitrarily.”  Only a handful of reported assaults ever result in a conviction: each year, only about 1,500 sexual assault offenders are actually convicted.
About 80% of sex trafficking victims in Canada are women and girls.
More than one in ten Canadian women say they have been stalked by someone in a way that made them fear for their life.
Provincially, Saskatchewan and Manitoba, which have consistently recorded the highest provincial rates of police-reported violent crime, had rates of violence against women in 2011 that were about double the national rate. Ontario and Quebec had the lowest rates of violence against women. As is the case with violent crime overall, the territories have consistently recorded the highest rates of police-reported violence against women. The rate of violent crime against women in Nunavut was nearly 13 times higher than the rate for Canada.
This is unacceptable. 
I don’t trust men because chances are, they believe it is. 
 
 
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